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Top Tips to become a more confident burlesque starlet

So maybe you have never been to a class before but would love to try, however you really dont feel confident enough. Or maybe you come to class and you enjoy being fabulous, fit and feminine, however you really dont think you could perform because you don’t feel confident enough? You enjoy class but hide at the back and shy away from performance week? You dread me asking you to show back your fabulous performance to others

Why I say?? Well  maybe you are not naturally a confident blushette starlets but hopefully these helpful tips well help you on your way to becoming one…..

1)       Good Posture

The way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. But you are all enthusiastic about class by practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

2)       Gratitude = Good things or thoughts

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on good things – what you enjoy and what you do well. Set aside time at the end of each class to mentally list everything you have done well. Recall your success, enjoyment and development over each class or 6 week block. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and have done well and be motivated to take that next step towards success e.g. performing

3)       Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults, looks and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build your self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself. Class is for enjoyment and development and performance is about showing off your skills – not about being “the best”

4)       Be in the front row

In schools, offices, and classes around the world, people constantly strive to be at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to be in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence.

5)       Improve your skills and practice

Being better at some things than someone is just a part of life, but it doesn’t mean we can’t learn, practice, and improve our skills. If there’s an area you lack confidence in, or a move you struggle with see what skills you can develop and start improvingIts immense hours of practice that separates a professional from a novice. Stick with it, keep practicing, and little by little you will begin to grow in your confidence and skill

6)        Let go of the past and move forward

It’s very difficult to feel positive about who we are when we’re always brooding about our past mistakes and failures. We can’t hold on to negative baggage from the past if we’re to move forward and progress in life. Let go of past mistakes, resentment, and regret, that is holding you back. We all make mistakes, so use these as learning experiences to grow and mature. If you’re going to focus on the past, focus on past achievements. What are you proud of? When did you really impress yourself?

7)        Set small achievable goals

A great way to boost confidence is to see success and accomplishments in classes. Set small milestones that you’ll be able to achieve. Little by little, as you accomplish new goals, you’ll feel more hopeful and optimistic about the future. Your confidence will build as you see success in different areas and you’ll realise you’re capable of achieving much more than you previously believed. From here you can start to expand and set bigger and more significant goals. E.g. remembering at least 1 chair routine after week 1 or performing a lie back on the chair without gripping on for dear life is an achievement

8)        Act confident

Many people don’t realise how important non-verbal behavior is to the way we feel. If you start to act confident you will feel more confident. Make sure to stand tall, put a smile on your face, dress in a way that you feel good about, and speak and introduce yourself to people with a confident tone of voice. Enjoy class and make the most of the experience

9)        Don’t expect to be perfect

We’ve all known people who are unwilling to be wrong and admit they messed up. The only way to become fully human and find self-acceptance is to accept your imperfections. Once you can embrace your flaws, a world of opportunity emerges as you’re willing to try new things and interact more authentically with others. If in doubt smile and shimmy J I have done on many occasions, no one will notice if you dont let them know.

So ladies – enjoy class, focus on positive improvements, try out being at the front of class and maybe – just maybe you will enjoy performance week so much that you will be begging to be involved in the showcase!


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